One of the first things couples factor in when they are contemplating a divorce is how a marital change would affect their children, if they have any. Many couples even opt to stay married for the sake of their children. Parents may worry that all of the change and the constant shuffling of children between houses will be hectic and unfair to their kids. However, studies have shown that children of divorce do not necessarily develop more poorly than children with parents that stay married. Furthermore, there are many living options that have been growing in popularity lately that attempt to prevent children from being adversely affected by a divorce.
Bird-nesting is one unconventional method that has been gaining a lot of traction in recent years. Basically, while the kids stay put in the home that they lived in before the divorce, the parents take turns living in the house. This method may be easier on the kids, especially if they are a little bit older and have friends who live in the same neighborhood. Bird-nesting might also be financially beneficial to the former spouses. The parent that would have been kicked out of the house will not have to find a new place that is big enough for him or her and the kids. Some parents might even opt to spend their time when they are not at the house living back at home with their own parents since they will not need extra space for children’s visits, or the co-parents might just rent one extra place for each of them to use separately when it is not their turn with the kids.
Living in the Same House
It could be the plot of a Lindsay Lohan movie, but some couples – even after they are divorced – opt to live in the same house or in a guesthouse near the main house. Some make this tough decision so that they both get equal time with the kids, but finances also play a role in this choice for many ex-couples. Although it may be difficult to see your ex-spouse every day, not renting or buying an extra apartment or house can save a lot of money – especially at the beginning of a divorce. This method will also save time that might otherwise be spent arguing over schedules and driving the kids back and forth between houses. Before trying this method, it is recommended that you consult with an attorney to make sure that your state does not have strict separation timeframes that are required before a couple’s divorce is granted.
Conventional Custody Schedules
Getting a divorce does not mean you have to reinvent the wheel. Many children have been raised by divorced parents and have grown up just fine despite switching off between two different parents’ houses. The important thing is to find the schedule and situation that works best for your family.
Regardless of which method you plan on using, we can help! Our San Diego divorce attorneys will fight for your rights – both financial and custodial.
Contact Law Office of Renkin & Associates today for representation in a custody issue or a divorce proceeding, especially one in which you want to protect your assets, or any other family law need.